What exactly is false burden bearing? False burden bearing is false responsibility. It is when you cannot release a person or persons to the Lord and will try to make things happen for them. You feel responsible for them and you will even be their Holy Spirit.
The scripture tell us to bear your brothers burden, it means to join with with them and not become a pack mule. In Galatians 6:1-5 it says:
“1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. 2 Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. 3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself. 4 But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. 5 For every man shall bear his own burden.”
False burden bearing is under the unloving spirit of not loving yourself. When we become someone’s Holy Spirit and feel responsible for them and don’t take care of ourselves. It is a trick of the enemy to get your eyes off of the Lord and not put your faith in Him. False Burden Bearing is a false responsibility.
The scripture tells you to bear your brothers burden, it means to join with with them and not become a pack mule. You want to come along side of them. So false burden bearing is like pride and it is compensation for rejection and having been rejected and it is what you need to be accepted. You say ‘I have been rejected and now I am going to take care of others and bear their burden’.
It will consume your thoughts of thinking about that person (either their situation or need). A person is not able to release them to the Lord and will try to make things happen to them becasue of False Burden Bearing.
We can pray and release. When they cannot get off their minds, then there is false burden bearing going on. Then it has not been released to the Lord. We should be able to pray, release them to the Lord knowing he is taking care of them. Then do the things we need to do with peace. When we false burden bearing, then the Lord is not able to come in because the false burden bearing thing blocks God’s moving in their lives. Plus, it steals your peace. It is a very suttle way that the enemy uses on his children. You know when you are false burden bearing when you are consumed in thought.
That is one area I have to watch for my life. I used to be such a big false burden bearing type person. When I get into that thinking, and it has consumed me and I cannot stop thinking about it, then I know I’ve gone into sin over it and have to cast down (sometimes cast out) the consuming thought as Paul said to do in 2 Corinthians 10:5. Then, I’m able to release it much better. If I catch myself doing it and I can give it to the Lord with faith, then I dont’ have to cast it out. I’ve come out of agreement with it. It has not consumed me yet. You see he enemy wants to get our thoughts off of Christ and be burdened with things. also, to steal our peace and be burdened over the situation or event.
Signs of false burden bearing or false responsibility
- Anytime or in any way that you need others and their problems in order to feel good about yourself. Using others’ needs to meet your needs.
- Doing what others should be doing. Rescuing—trying to save them.
- Co-dependency—covering up for them.
- Boundary trespassing—not watching your own or looking out for theirs.
- Meddling—getting into their stuff when it is none of your business.
- Being someone else’s Holy Spirit—a means of control and dependency. (Beware of striving to tell someone what to do—you can barely see your own path, let alone theirs!)
- Accepting too many responsibilities—not being able to say no. (Love is spelled “NO.”)
- In your serving of others, if there is driven-ness or fear, frustration or resentment, or a martyr or messiah complex, there could be false burden bearing.
False burden bearing coming out of rejection – lay your burdens down
Because of rejection you may need to have people look to you for help so that you will feel affirmed and needed (not rejected) by others. Or, because of rejection, if you don’t know who you are in Christ, you may get your identity out of living through others or controlling them instead of taking care of your own responsibilities. Either way it’s a burden you can reject!
Some people go into false burden bearing a lot because if they are consumed for someone else, then it makes them feel important. Why, because they have a low self esteem and a spirit of feeling worthless is working in their life along with other spirits.
We do need to care for others and not be consumed in thought. We need to learn how to cast all our cares to the Lord. When we are not able to cast our cares to the Lord, what is happening is that a person has doubt in the Lord to take care of a particular sitiation.
What is it really? The Word says in 1 Peter 5:7 to cast our cares to Him because he cares. If you are thinking about a person’s situation continually and consumed by it, then it is a lack of trust in the Lord. We need to be doers of the Word by applying God’s word. We can pray for friends and family but then release them to the Lord. Know the Lord is going to take care of them. Put them on the alter and leave them there! If you pick them up again, then give it back to the Lord. Learn to trust the Lord in all situations! I bet you didn't know that there are some of the diseases coming out of False Burden Bearing, They are:
- Irritable bowel syndrome
- Crohn’s disease
- Back Pain